6 Sexy Ways to Feel Empowered

by Sammi

on Mar 06, 2022

Do you want to feel more empowered? Hell yeah you do (we hope)!


We want to help everyone feel confident, self-assured and empowered both in and out of the bedroom but sometimes vulva owners and people who identify as women can struggle with this. Given the society we live in, we’re certainly not to blame but we are the only ones who can change it for ourselves.

After all, the first person who needs to think you’re sexy is you.

To help, we decided to come up with six top tips to help you see yourself as the sex goddess you are. Read on to find out more.

1. Dress to Impress (Yourself)

Everyone has a ‘fit which makes them feel smokin’ hot regardless of what it is or if anyone else even sees it on you. If you don’t have anything, find one.

Slip on your favourite dress, top or jeans, wear some outrageous lingerie under your clothes or treat yourself to something new - whatever you like to wear, regardless of fashions or rules, just go for it.

2. "Who Am I?"

If you're going to be satisfied in the bedroom, it's important to know exactly what you want and what makes you tick.

Spend some time getting intimate with yourself, either with a toy or just using your hands, and find out exactly how you like to be touched. Then, make sure you pass what you've learned onto your lover.

3. Love Yourself

It's all too easy to think about things that we don't like about ourselves, so make a list of everything you do like. Look at your naked body in the mirror, and instead of homing in on the negatives, consider all the other parts instead.

It can be something big, like you love your boobs or butt, or something tiny, like the fact that you have a cute nose. As you go, you'll build momentum and find there's really a lot more to like about yourself than you might have first thought.

4. Knowledge is Power

Sex isn't something you learn about once, and then you're done. It's a constant journey of exploration, and you may find as you get older or your relationship develops, your tastes have changed.

Write down a list of everything you've ever thought about trying in the bedroom, and then do a little more research into what's involved. Our Buyer's Guides have lots of useful tips to get you started.

5. Sharing is Good

Have a get-together with your friends and ask if you can spend some time talking about your top sex tips or fantasies with them. After all, you share tips on everything else, so why not sex, too?

It can also be very liberating to find out other people you know think about the same kind of things you do, and don't be afraid of being judged - that's part of what empowerment is all about and if you have the right friends, they’ll support you.

6. (S)Exercise

Finally, we all know an endorphin rush is a sure-fire way to feel happy and confident, so why not get the blood pumping by doing a workout? Yep, a fun, sexy one.

Swap the gym for a serious bedroom sesh, and show your lover just how much you feeling empowered does for your sex life. Plus, did you know a half-hour sex session can burn more than 30 minutes of push ups? Now that's a pump class we can get on board with.


Written by Sammi. Lovehoney's Student Sexpert
Covering everything you need to know about sex at college

Originally published on Mar 06, 2022. Updated on Mar 01, 2022