Feel Sexier In An Instant With These Body Confidence Tips

by Guest

on Oct 28, 2018


New Year's Resolutions are, for many, a distant memory. But for many (myself included) losing weight and toning up was high up on my list.

However, for a number of reasons, maybe it hasn't happened, and you're still not feeling as sexy as you wish you could in the bedroom.

I like to think I'm a very body-positive person, and I genuinely believe in beauty at any size, but when it comes to my own body, I really struggle to put my beliefs into practice.

But, really, body confidence comes from accepting your body exactly as it is, rather than trying to make it into what you think everyone else wants it to be.

So, if you're looking for a boost to your sex appeal and sensuality, we've got some easy tips for you that can help you love your body, and everything it does for you.

Above: Need some feeling fab in your lingerie? Watch Sammi Cole's top tips for total sex goddess confidence.

Celebrate your body


If you're having a low self-esteem day, having sexy photos to look back on can give you a real boost.

'Sexy' doesn't have to mean naked: you can wear anything you like. Your favourite outfit, the lingerie you've been looking for an excuse to wear, or nothing at all - basically, whatever you want, as long as it makes you feel confident.

Take a leaf out of body positive blogger Gemma Jamieson's (find her on Instagram here) book and celebrate your unique sexiness with snaps of you in your favourite lingerie. We've put together a great guide to taking the best sexy photos to help you out.

It's up to you what you do with your photos next: send them to a partner or somebody you know who would appreciate them, even just a close friend; keep them all to yourself to look back at on a bad day.

Set the scene


This is something I'm so glad I learned. Making your bedroom somewhere you want to be and where you feel in charge can create a feeling of relaxation and confidence that will instantly have you feeling sexier.

This can be achieved by something as simple as getting new bedsheets and clearing out the clutter.

Even if you aren't currently in a relationship, you can still put the sensual setting to use. Masturbation has proven health benefits, not just physically but mentally.

Nurturing yourself sexually and emotionally in this way has been shown to aid better sleep, improve your immune system, and boost your body image.

The more you allow yourself to be naked, in a setting where you feel sexy and empowered, basking in sexual pleasure, the better you will feel about yourself and the amazing things that your own body can make you feel.

Stop comparing yourself


Let's face facts - we live in an image-obsessed world. Morning commutes are marred by posters asking us if we're 'beach body ready' and magazines are packed with promises of making our tummy rolls disappear.

It's no wonder we have a tendency to compare ourselves to others, if you think about it.

In exactly the same way that body shaming someone else can be hugely damaging to their self esteem, putting yourself down because you don't look like you belong in Taylor Swift's squad is a bad habit that won't help your confidence.

Instead of picking at things you don't like about yourself, focus on a few things you're happy about and have them on standby for those wobbly moments. Before you know it, being kind to yourself will be second nature.

Treat yo’ self!


It’s a simple trick, but something as simple as a new pair of knickers can make you feel amazing.

Be it a cheeky pair of shorts or a flirty thong, the secrecy of having something new and naughty under your clothes as you go about day-to-day tasks can give you such a rush.

This isn’t just one for the ladies. Fellas, treat yourself to some new boxers and unleash your inner sex god! The feel of nice fabric hugging your hips and bum is sure to give you that extra bit of swagger in your stride. And believe me, a partner is more likely to prefer sliding off your jeans to see a nice pair of LHM boxers than to find themselves face-to-face with the Cookie Monster.

If pants aren’t so much your thing, then there are plenty of other options. A silky robe or chemise can be enough to make you feel like a vintage movie star.

And, admit it, we’ve all had that fantasy of opening the door to your crush in nothing but one of these babies.

Lizi is a Sociology student at Northumbria University, often found blogging about as Some Angry Northern B*tch. When she's not balancing her affection between her two partners, it often goes to her pet hedgehog, Stormageddon.

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Written by Guest.

Originally published on Oct 28, 2018. Updated on Aug 27, 2020