How to Use Butt Plugs - A Beginner's Guide

by Lovehoney

on May 01, 2017

Butt Plugs

Unlike other insertable sex toys, a butt plug is an anal sex toy that's designed to be inserted and left in place.

Generally speaking, butt plugs are conical-shaped, starting small and gently graduating in size. They usually feature a slimmer 'neck' at the bottom and a flared base for safety.

So why do people use butt plugs, we hear you cry?

A butt plug gently stretches the anus, creating a sensation of fullness and pressure, and stimulating the sensitive internal and external nerve endings.

When the pelvic muscles contract during an orgasm, a butt plug can intensify the sensation, as you're squeezing against something. Using one as part of your sexual repertoire can lead to intense anal fulfilment and amazing orgasms.

It's a fabulous way to explore anal play for the first time, either through solo masturbation or with a partner.

Our Top-Rated Beginner's Butt Plugs

What's the Best Butt Plug for a Beginner?

Butt Plugs

The best butt plugs for beginners are made from bendy, flexible material like silicone, with a smooth tapered tip for gentle insertion, and a slender girth.

The Tracey Cox Supersex Beginner's Butt Plug is ideal for first-timers as it is small, flexible and easy to use. Another good option is the BASICS Slimline Butt Plug which is long and slim, making it ideal for easy insertion.

If you're hoping to work up to something a little bigger, a butt plug training kit is great.

The Doc Johnson Wendy Williams Triple Anal Training Butt Plug Kit starts with a teeny 2.5 inch plug with a circumference of 3 inches at the widest part, and builds up to a larger plug with 4.5 inches insertable length and 3.5 inches in circumference.

Take a look at our Beginner's Butt Plugs section for lots of other anal play options.

And remember - ALL anal toys should feature a flared base to prevent over-insertion.

How Do I Insert a Butt Plug?

Butt Plugs

You might find warming up first helps - try stroking around the anus with a well-lubed finger, a little penetration with the same finger, or rimming if you're playing with a partner.

Climaxing before anal play can really help relax you, too.

Cover your plug in water-based anal lubricant, then position yourself comfortably, either:

1. Bent over on all fours (aka doggy).
2. On your back with a cushion under your butt and legs spread.
3. Squatting over the butt plug on your feet or knees.

Holding both the base and shaft, position the tip at the opening of the anus, angled slightly towards your stomach, then gently push. You should feel the very tip enter you.

When you feel comfortable, push a little more of the plug in, moving your hand off the shaft and using just the base of the butt plug to provide any motion. If you’re still feeling comfortable, push further and let the slim neck of the plug sit inside you with the flared base resting externally.

What Do I Do When the Plug is Inserted?

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Once your butt plug is inserted, you can enjoy other forms of stimulation or intercourse whilst the plug rests inside you, or you might like to try grinding against it for extra sensations.

Alternatively, try moving the plug in and out of you, using the flared base.

You can leave your butt plug in for varying periods of time, ranging from 30 minutes to several hours, however we recommend that you take it out at least every hour to reapply lubricant. This way, you won't experience any discomfort when moving around.

Ready For the Next Step?

Lovehoney Pleasure Probe 10 Function Vibrating Prostate Massager

So you've tried beginner's butt plugs, and you're ready for the next level in anal play.

Add vibrations with a buzzing butt plug like the Lovehoney Butt Tingler 10 Function Vibrating Butt Plug Small.

Stimulate your P-spot with the Lovehoney Booty Buddy Silicone Butt Plug, which delivers pleasurable pressure to the prostate gland.

Progress to bigger things with the Lovehoney Pleasure Probe 5 Function Vibrating Prostate Massager or the Lovehoney Classic Silicone Medium Plug.

Above: Brand new to butt plugs? Jess Wilde tells you everything you need to know about using a butt plug for the first time in our handy video guide above.

Above: Want to know all about anal sex? Jess Wilde and Sammi Cole are here to help!

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Originally published on May 01, 2017. Updated on Aug 05, 2020