“It was the best ever.” “I came 10 times.” “We did it in the frickin’ rabbit run.” These are the kind of tales about mind-blowing romps shared down the pub, and in books and movies. In reality, not every single session is a swinging-from-the-chandeliers affair. And that’s the first thing to remember.
However, this doesn’t mean your best sex ever is out of reach – all you need is a bit of body positivity and bedroom confidence.
Easier said than done though, right? Having total sex confidence can be hard. Really hard. You can be 100% comfortable in your day-to-day life, but stripping off and bumping uglies with that sexy someone is a whole different ballgame.
Check out these simple solutions for getting to know yourself, and to thinking and acting more confidently in the sack, and you’ll be enjoying supercharged sexytime in no time at all.
Do you enjoy having sex but find that you’re not often in the mood to initiate?
Do you wish you could get aroused more easily or desire your partner more often?
Put your seatbelts on because we’re going on a quick tour around the sex drive.
Sex drive or libido is basically how much or often someone desires sexual activity. It varies from person to person and there’s no such thing as a “normal” sex drive because everyone is different!
There’s nothing wrong with a lower sex drive as long as you’re happy, but if you decide you’d like to increase your sex drive there are a number of simple methods you can try.
Here’s my list of the best lifestyle changes you can make to put that sex drive into overdrive.
One of the biggest misconceptions that people have about lingerie is that you need a certain type of body for it.
In the past, I was definitely guilty of thinking I needed to look like a Victoria’s Secret Angel to even think about rocking a corset or suspenders.
But – newsflash – this is total B.S.
It’s 2018, and time to stop believing that you can only wear sexy lingerie if you’re a certain size with no cellulite or stretch marks.
Lingerie is for everyone, whatever your appearance or gender identity.
In fact, wearing lingerie can make you more confident.
‘How?’ you ask.
Well, here’s my roundup of the 5 ways that wearing lingerie can give you the confidence boost that you deserve both in the bedroom and outside of it.
In the 21st century, pornography and erotica are never more than a Google search away.
For as long as the internet has existed people have used it to find porn, and the availability and range of content means that online porn and erotica seem to be most people's preferred way of getting in the mood.
But looking at porn isn't the only way to turn yourself on. There are lots of ways to get yourself excited without any need for your favourite adult website.
Tumblr's ban on pornographic content at the end of 2018 got me thinking about some of these alternative ways to turn yourself on.
Here are some of my suggestions for when you're on your own and ready to get a little raunchy...
If you're the proud owner of an exceptional pair of balls, then listen up.
When it comes down to providing powerful pleasure, testicles never get the credit they deserve.
Your balls are covered by a thin layer of muscle, and this muscle extends into your abdomen. This means your cojones can take your orgasm, amplify it and make it ripple throughout your entire body. Who doesn't want that?!
To spread this good news, I want to introduce you to 5 sex toys you should try if you have balls. Literally - I don't mean you necessarily have to be courageous or full of bravado to use them.
Let's get the ball(s) rolling...
Boobs, boulders, bosom and so much more (many of which can’t exactly be written here), we could all come up with so many synonyms for breasts that we could fill an article with that alone.
What far more people overlook, however, is that the number of ways you can stimulate your boobs and the variety of toys out there to facilitate this is almost as large.
With boundless avenues for pleasure to explore it’s easy to get lost just looking for where to start.
To help with that, here are our top 5 toys you should try if you have breasticles.
Many of life’s most enjoyable activities require you to work quickly. A game of Boggle, for instance, or eating a 99 in the heat of summer.
Sex is certainly an enjoyable activity; it's up there with board games and ice cream in my books.
But good sex isn’t about sprinting to the finish line. Taking the time to engage in electrifying foreplay is crucial if you want to knock your partner’s socks off.
Here are 5 tried-and-tested foreplay moves that your lucky lady is bound to love.
New Year's Resolutions are, for many, a distant memory. But for many (myself included) losing weight and toning up was high up on my list.
However, for a number of reasons, maybe it hasn't happened, and you're still not feeling as sexy as you wish you could in the bedroom.
I like to think I'm a very body-positive person, and I genuinely believe in beauty at any size, but when it comes to my own body, I really struggle to put my beliefs into practice.
But, really, body confidence comes from accepting your body exactly as it is, rather than trying to make it into what you think everyone else wants it to be.
So, if you're looking for a boost to your sex appeal and sensuality, we've got some easy tips for you that can help you love your body, and everything it does for you.
Picture the scene: the lights are dimmed, the candles are lit - and someone pulls out the silky satin restraints.
If you and your partner have decided to make your BDSM debut, then congratulations are in order! It’s great that you’ve found someone else who is on your wavelength and is up for some sexploration.
What could kill the mood slightly, however, is if you tie up your lover and then stand there staring awkwardly, while your lover lies there and just stares right back at you (also awkward).
Before you whip the handcuffs out, the best thing to do is plan your scene together. Planning will help clarify what sort of play turns you both on, what activities are off the cards, and what your safe word will be.
But exactly how do you plan sex, and keep it sexy? Here's 7 things to do with your partner (ranked from mildest to wildest) now that you've got them tied up.
Have you ever wanted to turn your partner on via messages or Snapchat, but didn't want to take any compromising pictures?
Or perhaps you’ve been horny in public and can’t slip away anywhere to call them and tell them all about it?
Sending nudes can be fun and a sure way of getting the recipient hot and bothered, but they’re not the only way to get a sexy conversation going. Sometimes a well-written sext can be even hotter than a revealing pic.
Here’s my list of tried-and-tested sexting phrases you can use as a template next time you want to tease your partner, or have some long-distance fun.