How To Find Your G-Spot

by Violet

on Feb 02, 2021

In this blog, we investigate the elusive G-spot, in the hopes of giving you new ways to pleasure yourself or delight your lover. Read on to discover what a G-spot really is, how to find it, and how to have your first G-spot orgasm.

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What is a G-Spot?

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While the G-spot may sound like a really funky nightclub, it’s actually an erogenous zone found in people born female. (Just in case you’re wondering, people born male do have their own special spot, but this is called a prostate and that’s a whole different guide.)

The G-spot is an internal hot spot, usually located 2-3cm inside the vagina. Much like a penis, this big G swells when you’re aroused, and feels spongy to the touch.

Some speculate that the G-spot is a myth, but this mighty marvel is no Loch Ness Monster. The G-spot is very real and you can find yours – you just might need a little bit of practice.

Interestingly, some suggest that the reason this elusive spot feels so good when stimulated is that it’s actually an extension of the clitoris. This may sound a little wacky, but when you take a good look at a clitoris, you can see why this theory has legs.

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While the part of the clitoris that is visible may look small, in reality the clitoris is much larger internally. It looks a little like a wishbone, or a proud momma goose protecting her eggs. Can you see it? Just me?

Wishbone or momma goose, whatever you see, the wide wingspan of the clitoris could be the answer to the G-spot mystery. Better yet, it could explain why tandem G-spot and clitoral stimulation can be so wonderfully orgasmic.

Finding Your G-Spot With Your Hands

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As we’ve mentioned, the G-spot can usually be found 2-3 inches inside the vagina. But, because every vagina is different (and beautiful in its own special way, awww) your G-spot may be slightly further up, or further down. You may have to explore for a little while before you hit the jackpot.

With your hands at the ready and time on your side, try following these 5 steps to finding and stimulating your G-spot:

  1. Before you go hunting for the buried pleasure, you need to be properly warmed up. Your G-spot will be much easier to find when you’re aroused, so lie back, grab your lube and enjoy a clitoral play warm-up act, before the main act gets going.

  2. Now you’re thoroughly in the mood for a G-spot discovery mission, coat a finger or two with your favourite lube and slide it inside your vagina, so that your palm is facing upwards.

  3. Use your fingertips to feel along the wall of your vagina. The G-spot has a bumpy texture, which becomes raised when you’re aroused, so run your fingers along the internal wall until you find it.

  4. Once you feel you’ve located the spot, try stimulating it by stroking it in a ‘come hither’ motion with your two fingers. While some people may have a more sensitive G-spot, others need firmer pressure, so experiment with what feels good.

  5. If you feel like you’ve found the right area and pressure, continue to stimulate it with your fingers. You could rock your fingers back and forth, or try a circular motion.

As you really get into it, you may feel a strong urge to pee – this is totally normal. G-spot stimulation can cause a squirting orgasm, which on arrival can feel very similar to that ‘going to wet myself if I don’t find a loo STAT’ feeling. Instead of backing off from this feeling, lean into it, and go with the flow (literally).

While some people find this intense stimulation incredibly satisfying, it’s not for everyone. If you don’t enjoy the sensation, it’s no big deal, there are hundreds of other ways to pleasure yourself. However, if it is your cup of tea, keep the pressure consistent, use your other hand to stimulate your clitoris and you could be on your way to a G-spot orgasm.

Finding Your G-Spot With Sex Toys

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Fingers are all well and good, but this is the 21st century and sex toys are revolutionising the ways we get off – it’s about time we had a legitimate use for science.

There are loads of sex toys designed specifically for G-spot stimulation. From dildos to vibrators, these G-seeking tools are usually firmer than your average toy, allowing you to give your spot the right amount of pressure. G-spot dildos are often made from hard materials such as glass or metal, while firmer plastics are used to make G-spot vibrators.

However, the main difference between your average vibrator and one built for your G-spot lies in the tip. Curved at the end, these ingenious toys deliver precise pressure to your vaginal wall when inserted, sending vibrations deep into your G-spot.

When choosing your G-spot sex toy, look for one with a prominent curve and a smooth bulbous head – the large surface area should help you stimulate the right spot. For internal stimulation only, try something like the Mantric Rechargeable G-Spot Vibrator. And to add a little clitoral stimulation to the party, you can’t go wrong with a rabbit vibrator like the Fifty Shades of Grey Greedy Girl Rechargeable G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator.

Using a toy to find your G-spot is exactly like using your fingers, except your vibrator is doing the heavy lifting for you. Simply coat your toy in lubricant and insert, angling the curved bulb up towards your belly button. Then, slowly run the dildo up and down your vaginal wall, or if you’re using a vibrator, turn on the buzz and enjoy the ride.

What Are The Best Sex Positions To Stimulate Your G-Spot?

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It can be hard to stimulate your G-spot through penetrative sex with a penis. This is because it’s difficult for a penis to deliver that firm pressure your G-spot needs. However, it is possible, and it’s fun to try.

The best positions for G-spot stimulation are ones that give you deep penetration and some control over the movement. These allow you to angle your partner’s penis or strap-on towards the right spot.

Try getting on top and moving your hips around until you feel them hit the spot. Or, think ‘bottom’s up’ by getting down in a variation of doggy style, by lying down on your front, rather than supporting yourself with your hands.

Check out a few of our favourite 'G-seeking positions' below:

The Best Sex Toys For G Spot Stimulation


Written by Violet. Lovehoney Editorial Team
Violet joined Lovehoney's writing team in 2019 as our lingerie aficionado.
Violet is also an avid sex toy collector and co-host of The Sexual Happiness Podcast

Originally published on Feb 02, 2021. Updated on Feb 03, 2021