How to Use a Fleshlight & Enhance Your Experience

If you are interested in getting a Fleshlight for the first time, here is everything you need to know about how to use one, including tips and techniques for the best experience possible and ultimate pleasure.

Read on! You’ll thank us later!

What is a Fleshlight?

A Fleshlight is a brand name for a discreet masturbation sleeve (also called a pocket pussy or male masturbator) that is hidden in a hard container that looks like a flashlight. Hence the name and play on words: Fleshlight.

Masturbation sleeves are made for men to enhance their pleasure during solo sex. They are designed to replicate the sensation of a partner's skin so it feels like real penetrative sex.

The sleeves inside these toys are made of a material called SuperSkin, and as you may expect, this material feels very lifelike, soft and pliable, almost like the real thing. Fleshlights also feature various textures, ribbing and bumps inside that add extra sensation, with different designs unique to each toy.

Many Fleshlights are named after porn stars and moulded to resemble their various body parts at the entrance of the sleeve so it looks more appealing than just a plain hole, featuring sensual mouths, vagina lips, and puckered butt holes inviting you inside.

How to Use a Fleshlight?

This may seem rather obvious - you stick it in and thrust in and out - but there are specific techniques you can do to enhance your experience as well as ways to take care of your toy so it lasts a long time.

How to Prepare a Fleshlight?

When you first get your new toy, clean it thoroughly to remove any dust or debris that may be left behind in the manufacturing process. To clean, simply rinse well with warm water (no soap!) and then lay on a clean surface to allow to dry.

How to Warm a Fleshlight?

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If you intend to use your new sleeve right away, there is no need to dry it first. However, you will want to warm it up for the best experience as you don’t want to end up with a chilly willy, as these toys lack the warmth of real skin. For a more realistic experience, remove the sleeve from the container and immerse it in a sink full of hot water for a few minutes for a more sensual experience.

The best way to warm one is by using the Fleshlight USB-Powered Warming Rod, which reaches body-like temperatures of up to 55ºC in about 10-15 minutes. These warmers also feature an automatic shut-off so your toy won’t overheat.

Do You Need Lube for Fleshlights?

Absolutely! Lubing up your toy is essential for a smooth, sleek ride inside, so make sure to add a dab or two to your penis head and shaft before use. Don’t forget to lube up the sleeve's entrance, and the internal canal, as well, for the best experience. Pro Tip: Warm up your lube beforehand by placing the bottle of lube in hot water, for a sexy warm orgasmic feel!

What Lube to Use with a Fleshlight?

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Fleshlights should only be used with a premium water-based lubricant. Other types of lubes (oils, silicone) can ruin your toy and make it sticky and gross.

Try various types of water-based lube for different sensations. A thinner lube will be slicker and the textures will feel more intense, whereas a thicker lube will lessen the sensation of the toy. We recommend the Fleshlight Fleshlube Water-based Lubricant, which was designed especially to enhance these masturbators.

Can You Use a Condom with a Fleshlight?

Although it is not necessary, yes you can use a condom if you wish. This will make clean up easier, and you can choose various kinds of sensation condoms to experience a different feel.

How to Use My Fleshlight?

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The simplest way to use your new sleeve is plug and play. In other words, hold the canister, stick your dick in and stroke until you are content.

However, you can go hands-free with the Fleshlight Shower Mount and Hands-Free Adapter, a plastic adapter that fits most Fleshlight products. The adapter has a strong suction cup which adheres to smooth surfaces for hands-free pleasure and also features posable hinges to adjust the angle. Some guys like to position their toy between pillows for better thrusting action. You can also purchase Liberator position pillow for more hands-free fun.

How Realistic Are Fleshlights?

According to numerous customer reviews, the Fleshlight is the next best feeling to the real thing, and in some cases, just as good!

“OMG! When you first slide your cock into the soft lifelike lips, you are in heaven. It’s exactly what it feels like when you like when you slide into your girl - I love that initial penetration feeling, and this delivers! I actually tightened the end screw - this increases suction and I ended up with an earth-shattering orgasm [as] it sucked the cum right out of me. Mindblowingly good. Seriously guys do yourselves a favour and get one!”- Happy Customer Review

What Does a Fleshlight Feel Like?

Amazing! But don’t just take my word for it.

“Ordered this for myself and upon first use... I am hooked… This toy feels absolutely amazing and gave me the absolute best orgasm I have ever had. The ridges and bumps felt so good when using, and clean-up was easy. This is a must own for anyone trying to spice things up.” - Orgasmic Customer Review

Do Fleshlights Work?

Again, many reviewers said the Fleshlight was the best masturbator sleeve they had ever used. This is why it is still the best-selling male toy on the market! As with most sex toys, you get what you pay for, so while this brand may be more expensive than other alternatives, it is a top-quality toy that promises to satisfy even the most critical buyer.

How to Choose a Fleshlight?

There is a wide range of Fleshlights that you can try out, and it may be a daunting task to figure out which is the right one for you. My advice, check out the product online, read reviews and watch the video below to help with your decision of choosing the right toy for you.

Video: Which is the Best Fleshlight? | Discreet Male Sex Toys

Which is the Best Fleshlight? Let Jess and Sammi give you the rundown!

How to Take Care of Your Fleshlight?

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Taking care of your toy is simple. Remove the sleeve from the cylinder, and clean with warm water (don’t use soap), or get Fleshlight Fleshwash Antibacterial Sex Toy Cleaner for a thorough cleaning to disinfect after use. Made especially for realistic toy materials and compatible for all sex toys.

How to Dry Your Fleshlight?

Lay on a clean towel and air dry.

How to Store a Fleshlight?

Sprinkle your toy with renewing powder, and store in a cool dark place.

How to Tighten a Fleshlight?

All standard Fleshlights come with an end cap which can be used to control the pressure of the suction during masturbation by tightening and loosening it to modify the tightness of the inner sleeve.

How to Use Fleshlight Shower Mount?

Attach the super-strong suction pad of the shower mount to a flat surface, slide the canister into the mount and adjust the angle with the side hinges. Apply your favourite water-based lube and plunge deep for realistic pleasure and hands-free stimulation.

Most Common FAQs About Fleshlights

Is a Fleshlight Worth It?

While Fleshlights tend to be pricier than other masturbator sleeves, keep in mind the quality of the toy is superior to most other pocket pussies, and the special patented material is the most life-like available.

How Big is a Fleshlight?

The regular Fleshlight is about 10” in length. Other models range from 4.5” (the Quickshot) to 8.75”.

Does a Fleshlight Feel Like a Real Vagina?

With a little imagination and the right lube, it can come pretty close. No sex toy can compare with a real human partner, but this is as close as you can get to the real thing.

Can You Cum in a Fleshlight?

Absolutely! Just make sure to clean it after use!

Can You Microwave a Fleshlight?

No. Never microwave your realistic toy as it will ruin the material and could make it too hot, causing serious burns.

Can You Use Lotion with a Fleshlight?

No. This could also ruin your toy. Stick with water-based lubes that were designed for use with realistic sex toys.

Do Fleshlights Vibrate?

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No, most Fleshlights do not vibrate, except for the Fleshlight Vibro, which comes with 3 bullet vibrators for an added buzz.

How Long Do Fleshlights Last?

Depending on the amount of use, and how you care for it, these toys can last from 1-10 years.

Is a Fleshlight Safe?

Yes, they are completely body-safe and do not contain phthalates or other toxic materials.

Which Fleshlight Feels the Best?

This is a personal choice. Read reviews to find the best masturbator that feels great to you.

What Are the Best Fleshlights?

Below are the top 5 best Fleshlights, based on our customer reviews.

Though, of course, if you are going for the best Fleshlight with the greatest value, we recommend the Fleshlight Pink Lady Value Pack 5 Piece Kit.

Top 5 Best Fleshlights Based On Customer Reviews

What Stores Sell Fleshlights?

Lovehoney is an authorized seller of the Fleshlight Brand. We carry over 41 Fleshlight products for versatile options and endless orgasms.

What are you waiting for? Get your own Fleshlight today here at Lovehoney!

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