Bondage Tips and Techniques for Beginners

When most people think of bondage, they think of a man or woman being chained to the bed posts with a set of furry handcuffs. Although this is a fun way to get into tie-up play, there is a lot more to enjoy and explore when it comes to bondage.

That’s why we’ve put together our top bondage tips and tricks for all you BDSM beginners.

Bondage can be used to pull parts of the body together, spread certain limbs, fix your body to another object or even create the effect of mummification! Whatever you want to try, bringing bondage to the bedroom is a sure-fire way to broaden your sexual horizons and spice things up with a partner.

This list is full of easy bondage ideas to help you ease yourself in and learn how to practice bondage safely. Just remember to take some time to get comfortable and discover what really works for you and your partner.

So, if you’re ready to dive into the world of BDSM and bondage, read on for some serious kink-spiration!

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1. Get your head in the game

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Want to try beginner’s BDSM activities but don’t know where to start? Bondage games are a fantastic way to ease yourself into BDSM play and explore different types of bondage equipment.

Some beginners find that including an element of playfulness into bondage-related scenarios can help them to relax and feel more comfortable when trying new things.

Our bondage games include everything from kinky truth or dare cards to naughty twists on classic board games.

Whatever you choose, there’s a whole host of fun BDSM ideas just waiting to be discovered in our collection.

2. Love is blind

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Blindfolds are a simple, yet very effective bondage accessory - ideal for beginners.

Using a blindfold or mask to restrict your vision helps to heighten all your other senses, making you more perceptive and sensitive to touch. Removing any eye contact also helps with confidence for both parties, and strengthens your ability to understand each other’s body language.

Light bondage techniques for blindfolds include using a feather tickler to tease your partner’s body or stimulate their erogenous zones before any sexual gratification.

Blindfolds can be substituted for ties, silk scarves or a pair of tights, which makes this type of play an easy at home bondage idea.

3. Cuff me up, officer!

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It might sound obvious, but handcuffs are a great way to get into bondage play. Whether you've got a police officer and naughty criminal fantasy or you just love the feeling of being restrained, handcuffs will give you a feeling of being powerless while still having the ability to move.

With handcuffs, you can try beginner bondage positions such as cuffing your partner to the bed. Cuffing them so that their hands are attached to the bed posts will elongate their body, allowing you to teasingly explore every inch of their skin.

An alternative S&M idea is to have your partner sit on a chair and cuff their hands behind their back. This will allow you to do exactly as you please, without them being able to touch - great for naughty lap dances!

4. Let’s get physical

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If you’re looking for light pain play ideas, then spankers, ticklers and floggers are ideal toys to get started with. Teasing your lover with the light stroke of a feather tickler or the gentle graze of a flogger will heighten their sensory perception and drive them crazy!

Impact play toys can also be used in combination with restraints or blindfolds to enhance the anticipation even more.

Other pain play ideas include using a spanking paddle or whip to inflict a sharp but satisfying sting on your partner’s skin. However, it’s important to check that they’re comfortable with more intensive impact play before you dive right in.

5. All tied up

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Cuffing hands together is lots of fun, but why leave other limbs out of the action? Light bondage techniques involving various restraints can be used to position your body in different ways. You can bind ankles to ankles, wrists to ankles, necks to wrists, and even fasten all your limbs together, hogtie style.

These techniques let you progress from basic bondage positions to more creative BDSM play. For this type of restraint act, we’d recommend using bondage tape to start with as it’s non-intimidating, versatile and safe for all body parts.

Once you find a position you like, investing in a harness or hogtie can provide an even more thrilling restraint experience.

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