Bondage Tips and Techniques for Beginners

When most people think of bondage, they think of a man or woman being chained to the bed posts with a set of furry handcuffs. Although this is a fun way to get into tie-up play, there is a lot more to enjoy and explore when it comes to bondage.

That’s why we’ve put together our top 10 bondage tips and tricks for all you BDSM beginners.

Bondage can be used to pull parts of the body together, spread certain limbs, fix your body to another object or even create the effect of mummification! Whatever you want to try, bringing bondage to the bedroom is a sure-fire way to broaden your sexual horizons and spice things up with a partner.

This list is full of easy bondage ideas to help you ease yourself in and learn how to practice bondage safely. Just remember to take some time to get comfortable and discover what really works for you and your partner.

So, if you’re ready to dive into the world of BDSM and bondage, read on for some serious kink-spiration!

Tip 1: Cuff me up, officer!

It might sound obvious but handcuffs are a great way to get into bondage play. Whether you've got a police officer and naughty criminal fantasy or you just love the idea of being restrained, handcuffs will give you a feeling of being powerless while still having the ability to move.

One of the most basic light bondage techniques is to cuff your partner when they're lying down on the bed. Cuffing them so that their hands are attached to the bed posts will elongate their body, allowing you to teasingly explore every inch of their skin.

Alternatively, get your partner to sit on a chair and cuff their hands behind their back. This will allow you to do exactly as you please, without them being able to touch - great for naughty lap dances!

Tip 2: Full-Body Experience

Cuffing hands together is lots of fun but why leave other limbs out of the action?

Using various different restraints, you can bind ankles to ankles, wrists to ankles, necks to wrists and even fasten all your limbs together, hogtie style.

If you’re ready to take things to the next level, a wrist and thigh restraint like the Purple Reins Body Harness Restraint is perfect for those who enjoy being pinned in position but like having their legs free. This clever piece of kit even has multiple D-rings so you can choose the precise position that you prefer most.

Or, if you like to be completely at your lover's mercy, a full-body restraint like the Bondage Boutique Soft Cuff Hogtie will give you that unique sensation.

Tip 3: Spread ‘em!

Another one of our favourite beginner BDSM ideas is using a spreader bar to up your restraint game.

While rope and ties work by pulling limbs together, spreader bars keep your limbs wide apart so that you can’t flinch or prevent access to your body. It can be seriously thrilling!

The brilliant thing about spreader bars is that they can be used in all kinds of different positions. Standing up with a spreader bar makes walking difficult so they can be used as part of a kinky discipline scenario. Using a spreader bar whilst lying down can also create a sexy medical atmosphere, which works great when teamed with a doctor or nurse outfit.

If you want to start off small, why not invest in a restraint kit like the Bondage Boutique Black Bound to Please Under Mattress Restraint or the Bondage Boutique Soft Over-The-Door Sex Swing. Have a play with the included ties and then try adding something new to the mix.

Tip 4: Get Wrapping

Full-body bondage may sound scary but it can be very erotic, when done correctly. For beginners, Bondage Tape is the way forward.

A great way to experiment with different types of body restraints is to invest in some of this versatile tape. Because it’s safe for skin, it’s the perfect tool for exploring what you like before investing in more intense kit.

If you’re wondering how to use bondage tape, the answer couldn’t be simpler. Since it’s self-adhesive, bondage tape can easily be used to make full-body restraints without the need for complex knots of pesky keys. Just get wrapping!

From creating sexy bondage clothing to covering your lover from top to toe, this stretchy PVC tape is a must for bondage beginners.

But be careful - things can heat-up very quickly, so be sure to take a break when you start feeling a little too warm.

Tip 5: Tie Me Up

If you prefer something a little more hands-on in the bedroom, bondage rope is another great tool for restraining your partner.

Bondage rope can be used to restrain every part of the body and can be very beautiful when tied correctly. While intricate full-body pieces require a bit more skill, simple wrist or ankle restraints can be a great way to experiment with rope play for beginners.

Shibari rope also produces a feeling of constriction on the body and can be quite tight on the skin. While this can be very exciting, it’s important to make sure you’re not cutting off the circulation, or making your partner too uncomfortable. If you’re ready to try out this technique, read our guide on Japanese Rope Bondage for some tips and tricks on how to tie bondage rope.

Tip 6: Having a Ball

If you've already done the restraining body parts thing and you're looking for something a little kinkier, why not try bondage that also involves some sort of sensory deprivation?

A ball gag is a kind of bondage equipment that holds the mouth open and prevents your partner from speaking.

One of the best BDSM activities to try out with a partner in a ball gag is the 'silent interrogation'. Tie them to a chair and slip the gag in their mouth and then 'interrogate' their body by teasing it with a sensation you like a feather tickler or wartenberg wheel - if they make a noise, give them a soft spank to remind them not to be so naughty!

Important note: No matter what type of bondage you’re doing, make sure you have a safe word and that you stop whatever you are doing as soon as it is said. If you’re both new to bondage, it's a good idea to read up on Bondage Safety Techniques before play.

Tip 7: Dress to Impress

If all of these S&M ideas are a little overwhelming, why not try going back to basics and exploring your fantasies with some classic role play.

Slipping on a sexy costume can really help set the mood for whatever kind of scenarios you want to try. Grab a sexy police costume and get into the dominant role, or, pair your favourite lingerie with a simple blindfold and give in to your submissive side.

When you’re comfortable, try adding in some light bondage techniques to really kick things up a notch.

Tip 8: Turn up the Heat

Looking for BDSM ideas for couples that will really spice things up in the bedroom? Temperature play could be the thing for you.

To turn up the heat, start slowly by using some warm honey on your partner’s skin and then work your way up to bondage candles or heated sex toys once you’re comfortable.

You can also use ice cubes to tease your partner or have them pleasure themselves with a glass dildo, cooled in ice water.

As with all bondage practices, it’s important to put the safety of you and your partner first. Make sure you have a safe word agreed and only use specialist bondage candles with a lower melting point to avoid burning the skin. See our guide on using Bondage Candles and Hot Wax for more safety advice.

Tip 9: Play with Pain

If you like a little pain with your pleasure, there are lots of light bondage techniques that incorporate pain play and toys.

One of the easiest ways to explore pain play is spanking. Whether using a paddle or your hand, spanking your partner will produce a thrilling sensation. Play around with frequency and intensity to find out what really makes your partner tick. Our guide on How to Spank Properly contains lots of pain play ideas and safety tips if you need a little more guidance.

BDSM aftercare is always important, especially after any kind of impact play. To keep everyone safe and happy, take some time to talk to your partner about what’s just happened or treat them to a soothing massage.

Tip 10: Kit Yourself Out

Finally, if you’re looking for even more BDSM ideas for couples, why not invest in a Bondage Starter Kit?

A bondage set provides you with some great starter equipment and is ideal for those of you who want to try out lots of different BDSM activities and techniques. With a kit, you get the whole package: from blindfolds and bed restraints to spanking paddles and spreader bars.

So, whether you want to experiment with sensation play or explore restraints with your partner, take a look at our Bondage Set and try something new.

Bondage can be used to pull parts of the body together, spread certain limbs, fix your body to another object or even create the effect of mummification. Whatever you want to try, bondage is a sure-fire way to broaden your sexual horizons, spice-up your bedroom antics and increase your repertoire of sexual and sensual techniques.

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