Orgasms are absolutely fantastic, there's no doubt about that. But, there might be times where you or your partner cannot or choose not to reach climax.
Sex should be pleasurable and fun, whether you're orgasming or not. It's those sexy, fun feelings that bring us to orgasm, and we wouldn't be orgasming without them.
It's just like that age-old saying – the journey is better than (or even the reason for) the destination. You wouldn't do a hike to a lookout point and ignore the wildlife, plants and waterfall along the way, would you?
Also, I find that removing the sense of having a 'goal' (i.e. orgasming) when engaging in partnered or solo sex can make things much more enjoyable.
That way you'll notice all of the other sexy things happening along the way that you may have overlooked because you were so focused on achieving an orgasm.
Let's explore some other sexy and fun things that don't include orgasms.
Sure, when you guys first met you stayed up all night; Bumpin' and grindin', sharing your raunchiest desires into the early hours (all while Careless Whisper played softly in the background). But, when your relationship is old enough to legally buy cigarettes, kids, mortgages and television often take precedent over chatting about your innermost sexual desires.
Long term sexual relationships can often suffer from getting a little formulaic. While you may know each other inside out and have a healthy sex life, if you're holding back on sharing your true sexual desires you could be majorly missing out.
Whether you've just plucked up the courage to share, have lost a little enthusiasm for your usual bedtime romp, or have recently discovered a new sexual curiosity, it's time to start talking about your desires. In this blog we provide some handy tips to get that sex talk flowing.
Sex advice: it's everywhere.
You can get sex advice from loads of places, including Lovehoney (that's us!), doctors, sexperts and people like you, who may have experience with the very situation you're wondering about. In cases like that, an easy way to connect with other people is by joining a forum to ask the question. Our very own Lovehoney forum may be your first stop, but if you're looking for even more information, enter Reddit.
Reddit is the largest, most popular forum on the internet. Gone are the days when forums were all specific, separate websites: Reddit is a conglomerate of communities (called 'subreddits') where discussions are happening all the time.
Subreddits can be as general as r/Advice and r/NoStupidQuestions, where you can ask any question that tickles your fancy, or as specific as r/WhatsThisBug, where users post pictures of unidentified insects and the community entomologists will label your critter.
Since we're the sexual happiness people, we've explored Reddit to find the best subreddits where you can get sex advice.
Looking for something sexy to watch?
There are plenty of titillating TV shows out there, just waiting for you to go all night with.
We've gathered 10 of the sexiest series to ever grace the small screen – which of these haven't you seen yet?
I am so grateful for podcasts. They're the perfect medium for me to keep learning throughout my busy day without having to stop everything to read or watch something.
I listen while on the way to work, to uni, in the shops, doing dishes, folding laundry, tidying or doing puzzles...
I have too many subscriptions to keep track of and I'm obsessed. As it's me, the majority of what I want to know about is sex stuff, so what I listen to is almost entirely sex-related.
Here are eight of my current recommendations!
In all areas of life, we have our favourites. Our go-tos. Our undies that make us feel great and our meals we never turn down.
Of course, this applies to sex, too. Think about that one position you always go back to or that one toy you reach for to guarantee a banging orgasm.
Much like a good bowl of comfort food, these sex staples make us feel content, safe, and satisfied. But sometimes, safe isn't what we're after: it's the thrill of something new and exciting that gets your blood pumping.
That's why we've asked our Lovehoney community what kind of spice they use to bring new flavour to their bedroom adventures, and they didn't let us down.
Here are 8 tasty tips teeming with potential for cooking up some spicier sessions in the bedroom.
The love you have for each other may be platonic, but that doesn't mean you can't buy your best friend a sex toy!
Not only can something new and buzzy relieve stress, it can also boost your pal's confidence and teach them more about what makes them tick.
So the next time your BFF's birthday rolls around and you're stuck for present ideas, why not browse our amazing array of sex toys and give them the gift of sexual happiness?
You know Womanizer, the creators of incredible clitoral stimulators powered by scintillating Pleasure Air Technology.
You know Lovehoney, the sexual happiness people.
Now, you can know the breathtaking power of their combined pleasure-peddling prowess with an exclusive sex toy collaboration: the classic Womanizer Pro40, newly resurrected with a beautiful, sleek, black and rose gold colourway.
We went through review after rave review for the original Pro40 and it's clearly a beloved classic toy that earned a coveted place in many toy boxes. So we've brought it back to offer its lavishly good loving to a new generation of erotic ecstasy afficionados.
The exclusive Womanizer X Lovehoney Pro40 is totally waterproof, USB rechargeable, and offers endless pleasure and toe-curling climaxes at the touch of a button. Give yourself the gift of glorious orgasms today.
"Role play". Just the words can be enough to send a shiver of terror down the spine - but donning a new character for the evening can seriously spice up your bedroom fun.
On this week's episode of the Sexual Happiness Podcast, Sammi and Nick talk about why we should call it role play instead of fantasy play, the best way to banish your performance nerves, and what you need to create your kinky character.
And of course we cover our usual segments "You can never know enough about sex" and "Question of the week" where we share what we've learned about sex this week, and answer your sex questions.
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