7 Ways to Make Your Orgasms More Powerful

by Lovehoney

on Jul 28, 2020

Have your orgasms have been less than spectacular of late? Has masturbation or sex left you feeling like 'Oh well', rather than 'Oh yeah!'?

Don't fret, because Lovehoney has your back. Read on, we've got 7 easy tips for making your orgasms more powerful.

1. Take a break

This might not be what you want to hear, but one helpful way to boost the power of your orgasms is to take a short break from masturbating and/or sex.

A self-imposed break can be the reset your body needs, and studies have shown that both men and women report having stronger orgasms after spending some time abstaining from the Big O.

Try not masturbating or having orgasms in general for 3 days, and then see what it feels like when the floodgates next open!

2. Ramp up the foreplay

If you feel as though your orgasms are a bit lacklustre of late, try to focus more on foreplay.

Stampeding towards the finish line can be tonnes of fun (that's why we've come up with Speedy Suggestions for a Satisfying Quickie!), but if it's a mind-blowing orgasm that you're after, you may be better off slowly building to it.

3. Bust the toys out

Your sex toys aren't just for when you're flying solo. By incorporating your favourite vibe or dildo into you and your partner's play, you greatly increase your chances of experiencing a total knee-trembler.

The fact is that roughly 80% of woman cannot orgasm from penetrative intercourse alone. For this vast majority, clitoral stimulation is crucial and that's where toys like vibrators come in handy.

Check out the advice of award-winning sex therapist Chantelle Otten in How to Use Sex Toys with Your Partner.

4. It's not all about the orgasm

This seems like a weird statement to make in the midst of an article about orgasms, but hear us out.

When we make masturbation and sex all about reaching orgasm, we start putting expectations on ourselves and our partners that aren't always realistic. These expectations breed pressure and feeling under pressure is not conducive to having powerful orgasms.

By taking the focus away from orgasming, and just prioritizing general pleasure instead, you take that 'orgasm pressure' out of the equation.

5. Stay dry

No, we don't mean that you should stop using lube – we mean lay off the booze for a day or two!

Alcohol can decrease the level of pleasure we experience when we start to get down to business. Try sticking to the mocktails and see if that puts the punch back into your orgasms.

6. Ask for what you want

Maybe the key to super-charging your orgasm is speaking up. If you know that a certain position or kink is a major turn-on for you, but you don't share that information with you partner, you may be robbing yourself of the opportunity to experience some exceptional orgasms.

Having a conversation about what you want during sex can be an intimidating, and that's only natural. That's why we've come up with a guide on How to Ask for What You Want In the Bedroom.

7. Practise self-love

For once we don't mean masturbation – we mean practice being kind and loving to yourself! If you're in the bad habit of putting yourself down about your appearance, your sex appeal or your performance in bed, how can you expect your orgasms to be at their best?

Breaking these habits and practicing self-love is often much easier said than done, but if you want to have top tier orgasms, you have to be willing to do the work.

If you want to make your orgasms more intense, these tips are a great place to start. Let us know which ones worked for you!


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Originally published on Jul 28, 2020. Updated on Jan 07, 2021